This situation is poison for a family. The father may be abusive or alcoholic. On the other hand, he may be well-meaning, wanting to teach his son—but he teaches all the wrong things. The consequences can be devastating to a boy and last his entire life.
The problem becomes more thorny when the husband has his own strongly-held world view and spends a considerable amount of time alone with the boy.
I’m exploring this issue in my novel. Zachary views life as a constant battle and intends to teach Nate to survive it. He wants to make him into a man, but his definition of manhood is limited. Zachary hides his emotions and can’t express human love. He bulls through life, oblivious to joy. Big and powerful, Zachary has made it through by fighting many battles. Nate, on the other hand, is small for his age and brilliant.
Rebecca sees her husband’s world view as hateful and wrong. It’s clear to her that Nate doesn’t need that kind of teaching. She detests the fact that Zachary is using his time with Nate to teach his world view.
What should she do?